Keeping Your Mistress Search Private

Choose a Username That Leads Nowhere

Pick a username you have never used anywhere else. Avoid your real name, initials, birth year, employer, sports team or anything a colleague could search for. On Discreet Mistress your email address is never shown to other members.

Photos

Use a recent, honest photo, with or without your face. Before uploading, check the background for house numbers, street signs, car plates, mail, screens, uniforms and work badges. Avoid photos you have posted on other social media, because a reverse image search can link them.

Location

Discreet Mistress shows other members your nearest town or city, never your address. When you talk about where you live, keep it general until you trust someone.

Devices and Accounts

• Use a separate email address for dating
• Lock your phone and computer
• Turn off message previews on your lock screen
• Sign out on shared devices
• Use a password manager and a unique password

Discreet Mistress works in the browser, so there is no dating app icon on your phone. You can add it to your home screen if you prefer.

Billing

Charges on your statement appear under a discreet billing name, not the name of the site. The 12-month plans do not renew automatically (except in Argentine pesos), and renewal on other plans can be turned off in your account settings. Current prices are on the pricing page.

What to Share, and When

Keep conversations on the site until you trust someone. Share your real first name, phone number or social media only when you are ready, and never share your home address, workplace or financial details early. Anyone who pressures you for personal information or tries to move you elsewhere straight away is a reason for caution.

Protecting Her Privacy Too

Discretion runs both ways. Never screenshot, forward or share a woman's messages or photos. Do not try to find her other accounts. Agree together who, if anyone, may know about your connection.

If Something Goes Wrong

If someone threatens to expose you or asks for money, stop responding, do not pay, keep the evidence and report the profile. Discreet Mistress has human support available at any hour. In serious cases, contact the police. Our safety and consent page lists every protection on your account.

Messages and Screenshots

Treat every message as something that could be seen by another person. Write nothing you would be devastated to have shared, and never send a photo that shows your face together with anything explicit. If a conversation becomes intimate, keep it on the site, where you can block and report, rather than moving to a personal phone number or a social media account.

Respect works both ways. Do not screenshot a woman's messages or photos to show anyone else, and do not save her pictures. If you would not want it done to you, do not do it to her.

Shared Homes and Shared Devices

If you live with other people, think about notifications, saved passwords and browser history. Use a private browsing window, sign out when you finish, and turn off email notifications that might be seen on a shared screen. A separate email address used only for dating keeps your main inbox clean.

Meeting Without Giving Too Much Away

When you arrange a first meeting, pick a public place that is not close to your home or office. Travel there on your own, and do not offer a lift home or ask for one. Share your surname, workplace and address only when you have met a few times and feel confident the trust is mutual. It is normal to take weeks, and a woman who respects privacy will expect the same caution from you.

Review Your Settings Regularly

Every few months, look at your profile as a stranger would. Check that your photos, town and description still say only what you want them to say.

Frequently asked questions