Getting Started
Discreet Mistress is a dating site for adult men who want to meet an independent dominant woman, and for the women who want to meet them. Everything starts with a profile. Use the Signup Here button on any page, choose a username that does not include your real name or anything a colleague could search for, add your town or city, and write a few honest lines about yourself and the kind of connection you hope for. You must be 18 or over.
Once your profile is live, look through members near you and read the daily match suggestions. A profile that says plainly what you want, what you are new to and what you will not do gets far better replies than a list of labels. The how it works page walks through each step from profile to a first meeting, and our guide to writing a submissive dating profile has examples.
Your Account and Sign In
Sign in from the main menu with the email address and password you chose. If you forget your password, the sign-in page has an account recovery option that sends a reset link to your email. Nobody from Discreet Mistress will ever ask you for your password or a one-time code, so never give either to anyone who messages you.
Your account settings hold everything you might want to change later: your username, photos, location, notification emails, verification and your membership. If you share a computer, sign out when you finish and avoid saving your password in a shared browser.
Messages and Contact
A standard profile can send a limited number of messages each day and can read and reply to messages from VIP members. VIP removes the daily limit. Whatever your plan, a woman decides whom she answers. If she does not reply, move on rather than sending a second or third message. Our guide to the first message to a dominant woman explains what tends to get a reply.
Keep conversations on the site until you trust someone. Be cautious with anyone who asks for money, gift cards or a "tribute", who pushes you to another app straight away, or whose story keeps changing. Block and report them from their profile or message.
Privacy and Billing
Other members see your username and nearest town or city, never your address or email. You choose which photos to add. Card statements show a discreet billing name rather than the name of the site. You can see your current plan, its end date and whether it renews in your account settings, and turn off renewal there at any time. All prices, and which plans renew in each currency, are on the pricing page.
Still Need Help
Support is staffed by people 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The contact page explains how to reach the team and what to include so they can help quickly. Safety tools and the consent principles every member agrees to are on the safety and consent page.
Frequently asked questions
How do I create a profile?
Use the Signup Here button at the top of any page. You must be 18 or over. Choose a username, add your location and a few lines about yourself.
How do I sign in?
Use Sign in in the main menu. If you cannot get in, use the account recovery option on the sign-in page. Never share a recovery code with anyone.
What does a standard profile include?
Every member starts with a standard profile: your profile, browsing, daily matches and a limited number of messages each day. VIP and VIP Plus remove the message limit and add more tools.
How do I verify my profile?
Open your account settings and choose ID verification. A blue tick appears on your profile once it is complete.
Who can see my location?
Other members see your nearest town or city, never your address.
Can other members see my email address?
No. Your email address is never shown to other members.
Which plans renew automatically?
The 1-week, 1-month, 3-month and 6-month plans renew at the end of each period until you cancel. The 12-month VIP and VIP Plus plans do not renew automatically, except when bought in Argentine pesos, where they renew too.
How do I cancel renewal?
Turn off renewal in your account settings. Your plan stays active until the end of the period you paid for.
What will my card statement show?
A discreet billing name, not the name of the site.
Is there an app?
No. Discreet Mistress works in any browser. You can add it to your phone's home screen.
How do I block or report someone?
Open their profile or a message from them and choose block or report. Blocking stops all contact straight away, and the support team reviews every report.
Someone asked me for money. What should I do?
Do not send anything. Stop replying, and report the profile so the support team can review it.