Features on Every Profile
Every member starts with a standard profile, which covers the basics of meeting someone.
- Your profile. Photos, a written introduction, your interests and the kind of connection you want.
- Browsing. Look through members and see who is in your area.
- Daily matches. A fresh set of suggested profiles each day, based on what you have told us.
- Limited daily messages. Send a small number of messages every day.
- Replies to VIP members. Read and answer any message a VIP member sends you.
- ID verification. Complete ID verification and earn a blue tick on your profile.
What VIP Adds
| Feature | What it does |
|---|---|
| Unrestricted messaging | Message as many members as you like, with no daily cap |
| Advanced search filters | Narrow results by location, interests and more |
| Chat rooms | Take part in group conversations with other members |
| Private group chats | Create invitation-only chats with up to 50 people |
| Rewind | Bring back a profile you passed by mistake |
| See who likes you | View every member who has liked your profile |
| Priority comments | Your comments appear higher in conversations |
What VIP Plus Adds
VIP Plus includes every VIP feature, and gives your profile more visibility.
- Exclusive matches. Matches chosen for VIP Plus members.
- Priority messages and likes. What you send appears ahead of standard messages and likes.
- Top of the match stack. Your profile is shown near the top when other members look at their matches.
- Boost add-on. Raise your profile's visibility for a period.
- Super Match add-on. Show a member you are especially interested in.
Current prices for both plans, in all 16 checkout currencies, are on the pricing page.
Privacy Features
- Usernames. You are known by a username, not your real name, and your email address is never shown to other members.
- Approximate location. Other members see your nearest town or city, not where you live.
- Discreet billing. Charges show a discreet billing name on your statement.
- Blocking and reporting. Block anyone instantly and report a profile or message from where you see it.
Using Discreet Mistress on Your Phone
Discreet Mistress works in the browser on any phone, tablet or computer. There is no app to install. On most phones you can add the site to your home screen so it opens like an app, without a store download appearing on your device.
Safety Features
Every account has ID verification, blocking, reporting and human support 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The full list is on our safety and consent page, and the how it works page shows where each one fits.
Choosing What You Need
Most men start with a standard profile: set up your username, location and photos, read profiles near you and see your daily matches. If you find yourself writing to several women a day, or want to narrow your search with advanced filters, VIP is the step up. Every plan and length, with prices in your currency and which ones renew, is on the pricing page. You can turn off renewal at any time from your account settings.
Frequently asked questions
Which features need a paid plan?
Unrestricted messaging, advanced filters, chat rooms, private group chats, rewind and seeing who likes you need VIP. Exclusive matches, priority placement, Boost and Super Match need VIP Plus.
Is there a Discreet Mistress app?
There is no app in the app stores. The site works in any mobile browser, and you can add it to your home screen.
Can other members see my email address?
No. Your email address is never shown to other members.