At a Glance
| Discreet Mistress | MeetDominatrix | |
|---|---|---|
| Focus | Men meeting a mistress or dominant woman | Dominatrix dating |
| Who signs up | Dominant women and the men who want to meet them | Nine choices at signup, from man seeking woman to couple seeking couple |
| Who runs it | Part of the HubPeople dating network | ODS Online Dating Systems LTD |
| Languages | US English | English and 16 other languages |
| Age rule | Adults aged 18 and over | 18, or 21 where that is the age of majority |
Dominatrix Dating or Meeting a Mistress
MeetDominatrix calls itself a dominatrix dating site. Discreet Mistress uses mistress, domme and dominant woman as well, because many women who enjoy a dominant role in their private lives do not call themselves a dominatrix. To many people that word suggests a professional. Our guide to what domme, dominatrix and mistress mean explains how women use each term and why it matters when you write to them.
The membership also differs. At signup, MeetDominatrix offers nine combinations, man, woman or couple seeking a man, a woman or a couple, so its pool is not limited to dominant women and submissive men. Discreet Mistress is built for one pairing: men who want to meet a dominant woman, and the women who want to meet them.
Who Runs Each Site
MeetDominatrix's terms name ODS Online Dating Systems LTD as the owner and operator. Its terms include sections on associate websites and advertising messages, and its signup form says members agree to receive flirts, messages, account updates and special offers by email. It does not run on the HubPeople platform.
Discreet Mistress is part of the HubPeople dating network, which provides its account tools, billing and support. Across the network there are 4.1 million members, with an average member rating of 4.6 out of 5. Those figures describe the whole network, not this site alone.
What Happens at Signup
On MeetDominatrix, signup is a five-step form. Before you finish, read the options and the terms on every step, including what you agree to about email and associate websites, so you know which messages you will receive and which sites will hold your details.
On Discreet Mistress, you choose a username that does not include your real name, add your town or city, and write a few honest lines about yourself and the kind of connection you want. You choose your photos and what you share. Our guide to writing a submissive dating profile shows what to include.
Searching in Your Area
Discreet Mistress is built around location. You set your town or city, look through dominant women in your area, and receive daily matches. VIP adds advanced filters and unrestricted messaging. Our local guides cover 28 cities across seven countries, with notes on public transport, late travel and public places for a first date.
Languages and Age Rules
MeetDominatrix offers its signup in English and 16 other languages, which may suit someone who would rather read terms and write a profile in their first language. Its terms set the minimum age at 18, or 21 in places where that is the age of majority, and name Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska and New York among them. Read that section if you live in one of those states.
Discreet Mistress is written in US English and is for adults aged 18 and over. Our local guides cover cities in the United States, the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, Ireland, New Zealand and Germany, and members can search from anywhere.
Billing and Renewal
Discreet Mistress sells VIP and VIP Plus in five lengths, in 16 checkout currencies. The shorter plans renew automatically until you turn renewal off, and the 12-month plans do not renew in 15 of the 16 currencies, with Argentine pesos the exception. You can turn off renewal from your account settings at any time, and your features stay active until the end of the period you have paid for. The pricing page has every price.
On any site, read how its plans renew and how to cancel, and keep the confirmation email.
How Contact Works
On Discreet Mistress, a standard profile can send a limited number of messages each day and can read and reply to messages from VIP members. VIP removes the daily limit and adds chat rooms and private group chats of up to 50 members. A woman always decides whom she answers, and can block or report anyone instantly.
Whichever site you use, open with one detail from her profile, one honest line about you and a simple question. Never open with a demand, a scene or an unrequested photo, and accept a no, or no reply, without argument. Our guide to the first message to a dominant woman covers what tends to get a reply.
Privacy and Safety
MeetDominatrix's terms set out rules against harassment and abuse of other members, and commitments against human trafficking and child exploitation. Read its privacy policy for how your details and emails are handled.
On Discreet Mistress, everyone goes by a username, other members see only your nearest town or city, and email addresses are never shown. Members can complete ID verification, which adds a blue tick to the profile. Card statements show a discreet billing name, blocking and reporting work from any profile or message, and human support is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The site works in any browser with no app to install.
On any site, keep your real name, workplace and home address back until you trust someone, keep talking on the site until you are sure, and meet in public first. Our first-meeting safety plan and privacy guide explain each step.
Which One Suits You
MeetDominatrix may suit people who specifically want a dominatrix dating site in their own language and are comfortable with its signup terms. Discreet Mistress suits men who want a single, private profile and a local search for a mistress. Compare plans on the pricing page or read the other comparisons.
Frequently asked questions
Is MeetDominatrix a professional dominatrix service?
It describes itself as a dominatrix dating site.
Who runs MeetDominatrix?
Its terms name ODS Online Dating Systems LTD as the owner and operator. It is not part of the HubPeople network that Discreet Mistress belongs to.
What is the difference between a dominatrix and a mistress?
The words overlap, but a dominatrix is often a professional, while mistress and domme are more common in private dating. Always ask a woman which term she prefers.
Reviewed in October 2026 from each site's own public pages, including MeetDominatrix's signup form and terms and conditions.