Discretion is in the name. Members use usernames, charges carry a discreet billing name and the site runs in a browser with nothing to install. How private your search stays also depends on what you choose to share, so it helps to know exactly how each part works.
What Other Members See
Members are known by a username. Choose one that does not include your real name or anything a colleague could search for. Other members see your nearest town or city, never your address, and your email address is never shown to anyone.
Your profile shows what you choose to write. Keep your surname, workplace, phone number and social media accounts out of it, and share them only once you trust someone.
Discreet Mistress is part of the HubPeople dating network. The terms explain that content you add may be visible and searchable to members using the same service through other sites run by the same company, so write your profile with that wider audience in mind.
Your Photos
You decide which photos to add, and you do not have to add any that show your face. Many men start with a photo that shows their style or build without identifying them. Check the background before you upload: a street sign, a uniform, a car number plate or a view from your window can give away more than your face.
The terms do not allow photos that show other people without their permission, including faces in the background. If you would rather show your face only to someone you trust, wait and share it once you have talked for a while.
Billing and Your Card Statement
Card statements show a discreet billing name rather than the name of the site, and other members never see your payment details. According to the privacy policy, card details are securely stored and held by the payment service provider rather than shown anywhere on your profile.
The 1-week, 1-month, 3-month and 6-month plans renew at the end of each period until you cancel. The 12-month VIP and VIP Plus plans do not renew automatically, except when bought in Argentine pesos. You can see your plan, its end date and whether it renews in your account settings, and turn renewal off there at any time. Every price is on the pricing page.
The terms also explain that you can cancel your billing agreement through the support team or the chat bot, after which you receive an email with a link to the cancellation process. Your VIP features continue until the end of the period you have paid for.
Cancelling Is Not the Same as Deleting
Cancelling a subscription stops future payments, but it does not remove your profile. Under the terms, your profile stays visible to other members until you delete it. To remove your profile and data, follow the instructions on your Membership page, or contact the online support team from that page.
The privacy policy explains that some information is kept after deletion: most account information for up to two years, financial records for up to seven years, and some details privately for longer where law enforcement may need them in cases of harassment or other crimes.
Getting a Copy of Your Data
You can ask for a copy of the personal information held about you. Contact the support team, and once your request is verified a temporary download option appears in your account settings for 24 hours.
Keeping It Private on Your Devices
Discreet Mistress works in any web browser, so there is no dating app icon on your phone. Adding it to your home screen is optional. A few simple habits help on any device:
- Use a private or incognito window if other people use your phone, tablet or computer.
- Sign out when you finish, and do not save your password in a shared browser.
- Use an email address that only you read, and check your notification email settings in your account.
- Lock your phone with a passcode, and turn off message previews on the lock screen.
- Keep conversations on the site until you trust someone, rather than handing out your number early.
Our guide to keeping your mistress search private goes further, with advice on usernames, photos and what to share at each stage.
Safety Tools on the Site
You can block anyone from their profile or a message, and they can no longer contact you. Reports go to the support team, which is staffed by people 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Members can complete ID verification and receive a blue tick on their profile. Verification is a strong sign, not a guarantee, so take your time and be wary of anyone who asks for money, gift cards or a tribute. The terms make clear that criminal background checks are not carried out on members.
The safety and consent page and the community guidelines set out the standards every member agrees to, and the help page answers everyday account questions.
Frequently asked questions
Will Discreet Mistress appear on my card statement?
No. Charges appear under a discreet billing name rather than the name of the site.
Can other members see my email address or home address?
No. Other members see your username and nearest town or city, never your email address or home address.
Do I have to show my face in my photos?
No. You choose which photos to add, and many members start with photos that do not show their face.
Does cancelling my plan delete my profile?
No. Cancelling stops future payments, but your profile stays visible until you delete it from your Membership page or ask the support team to remove it.
Is there a Discreet Mistress app on my phone?
No. Discreet Mistress works in any web browser, so nothing needs to be installed, and adding it to your home screen is optional.
Checked in November 2026 against the Discreet Mistress terms, privacy policy, help and pricing pages.