Across the United States, men looking for a mistress have more choice than ever, from dedicated mistress dating sites to female-led relationship apps and huge kink networks. The table sets out the facts we could confirm on each service's own public pages, with no scores or star ratings, so you can match the service to the kind of connection you want.
US Femdom Sites at a Glance
| What it is | Format | Who runs it | Terms to know | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Discreet Mistress | Dating site for men seeking a dominant woman, and the women who want to lead | Website, works in any browser | Part of the HubPeople dating network | Three-business-day right to cancel for residents of several states, including California, New York and Illinois |
| Chyrpe | Dating app for female-led relationships and femdom | Mobile app from the App Store and Google Play | Greenrocks Development Ltd, London, England | Says every profile is verified |
| MatriarchMatch | Female-led relationship dating site, running since 2012 | Website, plus iOS and Android apps | SHOPANDCO, Hollywood, Florida | For single or separated adults; terms name the courts of Miami, Florida |
| Meet a Mistress | Mistress and submissive personals | Website | Infinite Connections Inc., Weston, Florida, with UK and Quebec companies | Profiles shown across a network of related femdom sites |
| Meet a Dominatrix | Dominatrix and submissive personals, in the same network as Meet a Mistress | Website | Infinite Connections Inc., Weston, Florida, with UK and Quebec companies | Messaging needs a paid membership; cancel at least 24 hours before renewal |
| THE CAGE | BDSM community social network with blogs, forums, events and chat rooms | Website | Lavati Limited, Nicosia, Cyprus | Chat rooms and messaging need a paid subscription |
| FetLife | Social network for the kink community; says it is not a dating site | Website | BitLove Inc. and BitLove Ltd | Personal, non-commercial use only; terms governed by British Columbia law |
Prices are not listed for the other services because they change often and vary by plan. Discreet Mistress prices in US dollars, and which plans renew, are on our pricing page.
Discreet Mistress
Discreet Mistress is a dating site for men who want to meet an independent mistress or dominant woman nearby, and for the women who want to lead. You set your city, browse dominant women in your area and receive daily matches. It works in any browser with nothing to install, card statements show a discreet billing name, and human support is available 24 hours a day.
Our US guides cover New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, Miami, San Francisco and Seattle, with notes on transit, late travel and public places for a first meeting. Paid sessions are banned under the community guidelines.
Chyrpe
Chyrpe is an app for female-led relationships and femdom, run by a London company and available on both major app stores. Women control who can approach them through its Power Board, and men open with a Love Letter. It suits men who want an app-first experience. See our Chyrpe comparison.
MatriarchMatch
MatriarchMatch is a Florida-run female-led relationship site with iOS and Android apps, forums and a blog. Its terms limit membership to single adults or adults separated from their spouse, and its help pages describe privacy settings for who can view your profile. See Discreet Mistress vs MatriarchMatch.
Meet a Mistress and Meet a Dominatrix
These two personals sites share an operator, Infinite Connections, and a network: each says your profile is shown automatically on related femdom sites. At signup both ask whether you are a sub male, sub female, transgender, a crossdresser, a couple or a dominant woman. On Meet a Dominatrix, messaging needs a paid membership. Compare them with Discreet Mistress vs Meet a Mistress and Discreet Mistress vs Meet a Dominatrix.
THE CAGE and FetLife
THE CAGE and FetLife are communities first. THE CAGE combines blogs, forums, a magazine, events and chat rooms. FetLife is a kink social network that says it is not a dating site and is strongest for local munches, classes and events. Either is a good place to learn before you meet anyone. See Discreet Mistress vs THE CAGE and Discreet Mistress vs FetLife.
Billing and Cancellation in the US
Most of these services renew paid plans automatically, so check the renewal rules first. On Discreet Mistress, the 1-week to 6-month plans renew until you turn renewal off in your account settings, and the 12-month VIP and VIP Plus plans do not renew. Its terms also give residents of Arizona, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Illinois, Iowa, Minnesota, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Rhode Island and Wisconsin the right to cancel within three business days of subscribing.
Meet a Dominatrix asks you to cancel at least 24 hours before your renewal date, and MatriarchMatch processes cancellations within 24 hours when they arrive at least a day before renewal. Our privacy and discretion FAQ explains Discreet Mistress billing, photos and deletion.
How to Choose
Pick a mistress dating site if you want a private, local search for a dominant woman. Pick an FLR app if you want a female-led relationship and prefer your phone. Pick a community if you want events and conversation first. Whatever you use, keep talking on the site until you trust someone, never send money to a person you have not met, and meet in a busy public place first.
For men in Britain, see the best femdom dating sites in the UK, and every individual comparison is on the comparisons hub.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best femdom dating site in the US?
It depends on the connection you want. Discreet Mistress suits a private, local search for a dominant woman, Chyrpe and MatriarchMatch suit men looking for a female-led relationship, and FetLife suits men who want a community and events.
Can I cancel a Discreet Mistress plan after subscribing?
Residents of several states, including California, New York and Illinois, can cancel within three business days under the terms. Anyone can turn off renewal in their account settings at any time.
Are the women on femdom dating sites professional dominatrices?
Not on a dating site. Discreet Mistress bans paid sessions and professional services, so members are independent women who enjoy a dominant role in their private lives.
Which US cities have Discreet Mistress guides?
New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, Miami, San Francisco and Seattle, with notes on transit, late travel and public places to meet.
Reviewed in November 2026 from each site's own public pages.