At a Glance
| Discreet Mistress | Meet a Dominatrix | |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | A dating site for meeting an independent mistress or dominant woman | A personals site for dominatrixes and submissives |
| Who you meet | Dominant women and the men who want to meet them | At signup: sub male, sub female, transgender, crossdresser, couple or dominatrix |
| Who runs it | Part of the HubPeople dating network | Infinite Connections Inc. in Florida, with companies in Watford, England, and Quebec, Canada |
| Network | Content may be visible to members of the same service on other sites run by the same company | Profiles are shown automatically on related femdom sites in its network, including Meet a Mistress |
| Without a paid plan | Browse, receive daily matches, send a limited number of messages each day and reply to VIP members | Browse, view profiles, send flirts and edit your profile; messaging needs a paid membership |
| Renewal | 1-week to 6-month plans renew until you turn renewal off; 12-month plans do not renew automatically | Automatic re-bill; cancel at least 24 hours before your monthly anniversary date |
| Paid sessions | Banned under the community guidelines | Its terms do not allow explicit adult content or nudity on the service |
Mistress or Dominatrix
The names point to the main difference. Meet a Dominatrix is a personals site open to several identities: at signup you choose sub male, sub female, transgender, crossdresser, couple or dominatrix, and its browse pages list single submissive men, women, crossdressers, couples and dominatrixes. It is a broad femdom personals site under one name.
Discreet Mistress is built around one search: men looking for an independent mistress or dominant woman in their area, and the women who want to lead. Many members use the word mistress because it describes a personal relationship rather than a performance, and paid sessions are banned under the community guidelines. Our guide to domme, dominatrix and mistress explains how the words differ.
Who Runs Each Site
The Meet a Dominatrix terms name Infinite Connections Inc., based in Weston, Florida, along with Infinite Connections Ltd in Watford, England, and a Quebec company for members outside the United States. Florida law governs the terms, and billing is handled by cgxpay.com. The same companies run Meet a Mistress, and the site describes itself as part of a co-operative of dating sites sharing one member database.
Discreet Mistress is part of the HubPeople dating network, which provides its account tools, billing and support. The terms explain that content you add may be visible to members using the same service through other sites run by the same company.
Messaging and Membership
On Meet a Dominatrix, a basic membership lets you browse, view profiles, send flirts and edit your profile, and a premium membership is offered once you complete your profile. Its FAQ says a basic member can send up to 10 flirts to 10 different members, and sending messages needs a full paid membership. It also lists a higher PremiumPlus tier. Its terms describe an automatic re-bill cycle and ask you to cancel at least 24 hours before your monthly anniversary date.
On Discreet Mistress, a standard profile can browse, receive daily match suggestions, send a limited number of messages each day and reply to messages from VIP members. VIP removes the daily limit and adds advanced filters, chat rooms and private group chats. The 1-week to 6-month plans renew until you turn renewal off in your account settings, and the 12-month VIP and VIP Plus plans do not renew automatically. Every price is on the pricing page.
Profiles and First Messages
On a broad personals site, your profile has to do more work. Members of several identities and couples are browsing the same pages, so say plainly that you are a man looking for a dominant woman, how much experience you have and what kind of connection you want. On Meet a Dominatrix, flirts are the only contact a basic membership allows, so a clear profile is what she will read first.
On Discreet Mistress, every woman you contact has chosen a dominant role, so you can skip explaining what you are looking for and focus on who you are. A good first message mentions one thing from her profile, says one honest thing about you and asks a question. It never demands a scene, a title or photos. Our guide to the first message to a dominant woman has examples, and writing a submissive profile covers the rest.
Photos and Profile Checks
Meet a Dominatrix says every photo is processed by a member of its team, who may crop it or reject it if it is not suitable for the site. Main profile photos must be at least 400 by 400 pixels and must show you. Its FAQ also says it rejects profile text that contains an email address, phone number or home address, for safety reasons, along with offensive language.
On Discreet Mistress, your photo does not have to show your face if you prefer, and you should leave out anything that gives away your address or workplace. Optional ID verification adds a blue tick, which helps a woman see you are who you say you are. Our online privacy guide covers what to share and when.
Finding Someone Local
Meet a Dominatrix lists Browse, Search and Chat in its main menu, with browse pages grouped by member type, interests and location. Discreet Mistress is organised around place: you set your town or city, browse dominant women nearby and receive daily match suggestions, and VIP adds advanced filters by location and interests. Our local guides cover 28 cities across seven countries, with notes on public transport, late travel and public places for a first meeting.
Privacy and Safety
Both sites say they do not carry out criminal background checks on members. Meet a Dominatrix says it does not use fake profiles or bots, and its terms ban explicit adult content and nudity. Because profiles are shared across its network, a profile you create there may appear on related femdom sites as well.
On Discreet Mistress, members use a username, your email address is never shown and card statements show a discreet billing name. ID verification adds a blue tick, and human support is available 24 hours a day. Our privacy and discretion FAQ covers photos, billing and deletion.
Support, Refunds and Your Data
Meet a Dominatrix says it offers live support around the clock by phone, live chat and email, and its refund policy offers a full refund up to 60 days from the date of purchase if you are unsatisfied. Its FAQ points to a data management panel in your account where you can download, deactivate or permanently delete your personal data.
Discreet Mistress offers human support 24 hours a day through the HubPeople network. The privacy policy explains that some information is kept for up to two years after you delete your profile, and financial records for longer, so read it before you sign up if that matters to you.
Which One Suits You
Meet a Dominatrix may suit you if you want a broad femdom personals site where submissives of several identities and couples sign up alongside dominant women, and you are comfortable with a profile shared across a network of related sites. Discreet Mistress suits you if you want a focused, local search for an independent mistress who is looking for a relationship rather than a client.
See also Discreet Mistress vs Meet a Mistress, the sister site in the same network, and our roundups of the best femdom dating sites in the UK and in the US.
Frequently asked questions
Are Meet a Dominatrix and Meet a Mistress the same company?
Yes. The terms of both sites name Infinite Connections, and both say profiles are shown on related femdom sites in the same network.
Can I message on Meet a Dominatrix without paying?
No. Its basic membership lets you browse, view profiles, send flirts and edit your profile, but sending messages needs a paid membership.
Are the women on Discreet Mistress professional dominatrices?
No. Members are independent women who enjoy a dominant role in their private lives, and paid sessions are banned under the community guidelines.
Does Meet a Dominatrix offer refunds?
Its refund policy offers a full refund up to 60 days from the date of purchase if you are unsatisfied with a premium membership.
How many flirts can a basic member send on Meet a Dominatrix?
Its FAQ says a basic member can send up to 10 flirts to 10 different members. Sending messages needs a paid membership.
Reviewed in November 2026 from each service's own public information.